Primal Rejuvenation
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    • Poor Implemenation vs Nailing It
    • Just In Time Support
    • Paradigms and Meta Awareness
    • 9 Principles of Health Success
    • 5 Keys to Implementing a Health Plan
    • 6 Kinds of Weak Links
    • Compassion vs Responsibility
    • How to Save Money
  • About
    • Paul Hess. Ph.D.
    • Mission, Principles, Keys to Health
    • Short Story
    • My 8 Qualification & Why I Care
    • Health Journey
  • Results
  • Eat to Energize
    • Customized Nutrition >
      • Customized Diet
      • 10 Ways to a Diet Right for You
      • Everyone Is Different With Diet
    • Supplements >
      • Your Supplement Graveyard
      • Find Out which Supplements & Foods Strengthen or Weaken You
      • Smart Supplement Selection
    • Deficiency vs Excess >
      • 7 Things Nutritional Deficiencies Do
      • Deficiency Chain Reaction
      • Pain as a Sign of Nutritional Deficiencies
      • Excesses & Metabolic Recycling
    • Minerals >
      • Magnesium Is # 1
      • SALT What You Don't Know About
      • Potassium Deficiency, K?
      • 3 Rejuvenation Minerals
      • Iodine Is Amazing
      • Sulfur Intolerance Success Story
      • Iron: Anemia with Excess Iron
      • Calcium Dangers
      • 3 Sources of Magnesium Might Be Necesssary
      • Unique Mineral Balancing
    • Allergies >
      • Food Allergy & Intolerance
      • Fix Dairy Allergy: Raw Dairy is a Super Healer
    • Cholesterol Is Good
    • Replace Starches with Fruit
    • Upgrade Protein
    • Amino Acids
    • Enzyme Insufficiency Diseases
    • Why does Progress Stop? Chasing Your New Weakest Link
    • Nutrition Basics
    • 6 Features of Successful Nutrition Protocols
  • Detoxify
    • Detoxification Program
    • Why Are You Sensitive to Detoxing?
    • 8 Detox Methods
    • Toxic Metals Test
    • Metals Detoxification in 3 Stages: A New Approach
    • The Anti-Oxidant System >
      • The Antioxidant Network
      • Alpha Lipoic Acid more Comfortably at Higher Doses
      • Detox: A Synthesis of Cutler, Shade, & "Redox before Detox"
    • Bile Flow for Detox, Infection, Digestion
    • Detoxify with Nutrients
    • The Detox Meal
    • Brain Detox thru Circulation to the Head & Spine: Move, Expand, Shake
    • Driving Detox Deeper
    • Coffee Enemas
    • Toxicity: Body Burden & Environment
    • Close Connections Beween Nutrition, Toxicity, Infection
  • Electro Toxic
    • Electro Toxic Defined
    • EMR Symptoms & Sources
    • Is Your WIFi Really Off?
    • Give-Up Your Cell Phone
    • Light Protection
    • Bulbs & Glasses
    • New Respiratory Symptoms & Toxicity
    • Detox Is Electronic Warfare
  • Infections
    • Infection Program
    • 3 Keys to Eliminating Infection
    • Eliminating Infection Requires Detox & Redox
    • Parasites First, Then Candida
    • Immunity Through Organ Strength
    • Is Leaky Gut Caused by Leaky Liver?
    • Immunity Depends on Toxicity & Nutrition
    • Immunity with Enzymes
    • Corona Virus Replay of AIDS Misdiagnosis?
    • Lyme in a New Paradigm
    • Circulation & Dental Infections
    • When to Use Ozone and Oxidizers
    • Close Connections Beween Nutrition, Toxicity, Infection
    • Minerals Control Infection
    • Brain Snatchers
  • Alignment & Pain
    • Alignment Program
    • Pain Program
    • Align from Teeth to Toes: Big Picture
    • Primal Movement
    • How Hips Align the Spine
    • Brain Massage
    • Make Your Brain Think
    • Headaches
    • Orthodontics: A New Frontier
    • Breast Feeding
    • Almost All Body Workers Miss Root Causes
    • Shoes: Your Foundation
    • Injuries from Over-Training
    • Booty and Bust
    • Fibromyalgia
  • Emotional
    • Emotional Progam
    • Shattered & Scattered
    • ANS
    • Don't Take a Deep Breath
    • MIND as a Root Cause
    • Align Spine & Mind
    • Deliverance
  • SUN, Sauna, Lamps
    • How to Use Sunlight at 5 Different Times
    • Far Infrared for Detox
    • UV & Far Infrared Lamps
    • FIR Desk Lamps
    • Relax Sauna & Lamps
    • Avoid Noon Sun?
    • Blood Pressure
    • Sun Intolerance
    • More Physics of Nutrition
    • Cold Intolerance & Cold Conditioning
    • Magnetico
  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Sleep
    • Sleep Program
    • Sleep: 14 Solution Sets
    • Sleep & Nutritional Deficiencies Part I
    • Sleep & Nutritional Deficiencies II
  • Dental
    • Dental Detox
    • Prepare for Dental Surgery
    • Heal Cavities
    • Dental Lymph
    • Circulation & Dental Infections
    • Circulation: Blood, Lymph, Spinal Fluid, Dental
    • Orthodontics: A New Frontier
  • Hormones
    • Adrenal Fatigue in a New Paradigm
    • Thyroid is a Symptom
    • Why Thyroid Treatment Works or Not
    • TESTOSTERONE: Just Tip of the Iceberg
    • Menopause, Andropause, Rejuvenation
    • Testosterone--More
    • Cholesterol Feeds Hormones
    • Brain Commands Hormones
  • Weight
    • ​Lose Weight Through High Energy Nutrients
    • Gain Weight
    • Hard Core Methods
  • Skin
    • Skin Program
    • Skin from the Inside
    • Sun is Good for Skin
    • Toxicity Damages Skin
  • Workout
    • Full Recovery Training
    • Over-Training: Science vs.Emotion
    • Work OUT of Doors
    • Shoes: Your Foundation
    • Workout for Success
  • Health & Romance
    • Health & Romance
    • Sex Drive Diet
    • Managing Sexual Energy
    • Flirt Culture & Tease Culture
    • Men: Tool, Fool, or Cool?
    • Men Leading
  • Fasting
    • Why Fast?
    • Fasting Lifestyle
    • Customized Fasting
    • When Fasting Fails
    • Boost Fasting
    • Dry Fast
    • Famous Athletes
    • Living on Energy
  • New Paradigm
    • The llness Matrix
    • New Health Paradigm
    • 6 Root Causes
    • 4 Signs You are Treating Symptoms not Causes
    • 7 Nutrition Paradigms
    • Over-Specialization is the Hobglobin of Mediocre Minds
    • Science Becomes Religion When:
    • 14 Reasons to Doubt Theories of Viruses
    • Dr. Klinghardt
    • The New Physics
    • Health Technology Paradigms: Tesla versus Rife
    • Healing Machines
    • 6 Levels of Complete Rejuvenation
    • East-West Paradigms: JING: the Deepest Energy
    • Misleading Science
    • What Is Integral Theory?
    • 4 Big Ideas
    • Self Assessment
  • Quality Improvement
    • Engineering Customized, Quantified Protocols
    • Root Causes
    • Complete Solutions
    • Systems Thinking
    • Complexity is the Problem: Syndromes & Spectrums
    • Simplify
    • 3 Principles of Transformation
    • Scientific Method for Personal Health
    • Continuous Improvement of Nutritional Deficiencies
    • Just In Time Coaching
    • Health in Corporate Strategy
    • When Should You See Results?
  • Shop
    • Relax Sauna & Lamps
    • FIR Desk Lamps
    • Magnetico
    • Metals Detox: Coseva TRS
    • Megaspore Probiotic

Men Leading Relationships

Passionate relationships are founded on a man being stronger in his masculine and a woman being in her feminine.
 
Attraction happens between polarity of opposites.
 
Healthy roles begin with a man leading and woman receiving and supporting.
 
Women can lead in other ways through her unique insight like a neck turning a head at times to go the right direction, but a man is still “head” of household, although modern roles are more flexible.
 
Equality of respect and contribution is still desirable but not through a fictitious sameness that is actually role reversal.
 
When a man is weak and not leading, a woman often slips into default mode of complaining and controlling.
 
Signs of relationships without polarity are argue, argue, argue and endless exploring of “childhood issues.” 
​
The first step is often for a man to demand total respect and set boundaries on unproductive and irrational conversations that usually blame him.  
 
A woman has to grow up, stop blaming him and take responsibility for herself and support her man—not pursue transformation through criticism and control.
 
To be a leader a man has to stop avoiding conflict a man has to confront his deep neediness for female approval and fear he will offend her and other nice guy training.  He has been deeply shamed by society and his mother to be responsible for her feelings to not react on his own behalf. This is culturally instituted as traditional chivalry or feminist redemptive posturing.
 
Female behavior is seen by many men as a great test to see if he dumb enough to put up with it and follow along with her posturing as morally superior or simply entitled.  
 
The masculine role begins with setting boundaries and respect with each individual taking responsibility for themselves.
 
If a man cannot stand up for himself, then she cannot trust him.
 
On a dating show the audience had to cringe through a woman being rude to a man over and over. At the end of the show she complained, “How can he defend me if he can’t even defend himself.” This kind of female has no shame for inflicting pain and it is more common than anyone wants to admit--and if you do, the gynocentric girl gang will try to shame you into silence. Recognizing this deeply ingrained pattern is very hard for idealistic people.
 
If you are too afraid to yell at someone of either sex to “fuck off” then will never see that it can make a woman calm down and open to you. This has to be seen to be believed. Although once it got to that point, I usually rejected them. The point is, because I am willing to do that, I don’t need to as much.
 
Once you are strong as a man you don’t attract this kind of woman as much and you learn to reject them instantly like the in first conversation when you meet—leaving them stunned because they have no clue. It’s often because they can’t receive (lack of feminine) what you are saying as your contribution that gives you value but they treat you as a competitor (male adolescent hyper-competitiveness) with whom they have to establish independence (masculinized defenses)—especially as they get older and more rigid.
 
The level of professional help is generally very weak because they don’t deal with these roles.
Many people saying similar things about masculine and feminine roles are actually not going far enough. Until you realize just how deeply female centric the culture is in the media, professional therapy and self help fields, you cannot see it. There is always the fear of criticizing females too much but you always get points for coming down hard on men.
 
Most women don’t have anyone tell them what they are doing wrong, but instead get mislead by things like being “empowered” through affirming the goddess within.
 
In pursuit of masculine and feminine polarity too often people regress to the traditional role of chivalry in which men have to sacrifice feelings for performance while women are still too dependent.  I define 3 options in my page, Tool, Fool, or Cool?
 
My training for a PhD in sociology gives me the ability to synthesize all the theories.
Then I sort them out through experience in dating and relationships.
Very valuable is experience with women from other countries where it is easier to learn to be feminine, as there are few good role models in the media in the USA. But anyone can learn wherever they are.
 
I have extensive writings that are not public that I share with people I know.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
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  • Eat to Energize & Detoxify
  • Free Assessment
  • Health Coaching
    • Health Coaching in 11 Steps
    • 10 Programs
    • Energetic Testing >
      • Energetic Testing of Health Solutions
    • FOCUS Stop Shopping: Implement
    • Poor Implemenation vs Nailing It
    • Just In Time Support
    • Paradigms and Meta Awareness
    • 9 Principles of Health Success
    • 5 Keys to Implementing a Health Plan
    • 6 Kinds of Weak Links
    • Compassion vs Responsibility
    • How to Save Money
  • About
    • Paul Hess. Ph.D.
    • Mission, Principles, Keys to Health
    • Short Story
    • My 8 Qualification & Why I Care
    • Health Journey
  • Results
  • Eat to Energize
    • Customized Nutrition >
      • Customized Diet
      • 10 Ways to a Diet Right for You
      • Everyone Is Different With Diet
    • Supplements >
      • Your Supplement Graveyard
      • Find Out which Supplements & Foods Strengthen or Weaken You
      • Smart Supplement Selection
    • Deficiency vs Excess >
      • 7 Things Nutritional Deficiencies Do
      • Deficiency Chain Reaction
      • Pain as a Sign of Nutritional Deficiencies
      • Excesses & Metabolic Recycling
    • Minerals >
      • Magnesium Is # 1
      • SALT What You Don't Know About
      • Potassium Deficiency, K?
      • 3 Rejuvenation Minerals
      • Iodine Is Amazing
      • Sulfur Intolerance Success Story
      • Iron: Anemia with Excess Iron
      • Calcium Dangers
      • 3 Sources of Magnesium Might Be Necesssary
      • Unique Mineral Balancing
    • Allergies >
      • Food Allergy & Intolerance
      • Fix Dairy Allergy: Raw Dairy is a Super Healer
    • Cholesterol Is Good
    • Replace Starches with Fruit
    • Upgrade Protein
    • Amino Acids
    • Enzyme Insufficiency Diseases
    • Why does Progress Stop? Chasing Your New Weakest Link
    • Nutrition Basics
    • 6 Features of Successful Nutrition Protocols
  • Detoxify
    • Detoxification Program
    • Why Are You Sensitive to Detoxing?
    • 8 Detox Methods
    • Toxic Metals Test
    • Metals Detoxification in 3 Stages: A New Approach
    • The Anti-Oxidant System >
      • The Antioxidant Network
      • Alpha Lipoic Acid more Comfortably at Higher Doses
      • Detox: A Synthesis of Cutler, Shade, & "Redox before Detox"
    • Bile Flow for Detox, Infection, Digestion
    • Detoxify with Nutrients
    • The Detox Meal
    • Brain Detox thru Circulation to the Head & Spine: Move, Expand, Shake
    • Driving Detox Deeper
    • Coffee Enemas
    • Toxicity: Body Burden & Environment
    • Close Connections Beween Nutrition, Toxicity, Infection
  • Electro Toxic
    • Electro Toxic Defined
    • EMR Symptoms & Sources
    • Is Your WIFi Really Off?
    • Give-Up Your Cell Phone
    • Light Protection
    • Bulbs & Glasses
    • New Respiratory Symptoms & Toxicity
    • Detox Is Electronic Warfare
  • Infections
    • Infection Program
    • 3 Keys to Eliminating Infection
    • Eliminating Infection Requires Detox & Redox
    • Parasites First, Then Candida
    • Immunity Through Organ Strength
    • Is Leaky Gut Caused by Leaky Liver?
    • Immunity Depends on Toxicity & Nutrition
    • Immunity with Enzymes
    • Corona Virus Replay of AIDS Misdiagnosis?
    • Lyme in a New Paradigm
    • Circulation & Dental Infections
    • When to Use Ozone and Oxidizers
    • Close Connections Beween Nutrition, Toxicity, Infection
    • Minerals Control Infection
    • Brain Snatchers
  • Alignment & Pain
    • Alignment Program
    • Pain Program
    • Align from Teeth to Toes: Big Picture
    • Primal Movement
    • How Hips Align the Spine
    • Brain Massage
    • Make Your Brain Think
    • Headaches
    • Orthodontics: A New Frontier
    • Breast Feeding
    • Almost All Body Workers Miss Root Causes
    • Shoes: Your Foundation
    • Injuries from Over-Training
    • Booty and Bust
    • Fibromyalgia
  • Emotional
    • Emotional Progam
    • Shattered & Scattered
    • ANS
    • Don't Take a Deep Breath
    • MIND as a Root Cause
    • Align Spine & Mind
    • Deliverance
  • SUN, Sauna, Lamps
    • How to Use Sunlight at 5 Different Times
    • Far Infrared for Detox
    • UV & Far Infrared Lamps
    • FIR Desk Lamps
    • Relax Sauna & Lamps
    • Avoid Noon Sun?
    • Blood Pressure
    • Sun Intolerance
    • More Physics of Nutrition
    • Cold Intolerance & Cold Conditioning
    • Magnetico
  • Chronic Fatigue
  • Sleep
    • Sleep Program
    • Sleep: 14 Solution Sets
    • Sleep & Nutritional Deficiencies Part I
    • Sleep & Nutritional Deficiencies II
  • Dental
    • Dental Detox
    • Prepare for Dental Surgery
    • Heal Cavities
    • Dental Lymph
    • Circulation & Dental Infections
    • Circulation: Blood, Lymph, Spinal Fluid, Dental
    • Orthodontics: A New Frontier
  • Hormones
    • Adrenal Fatigue in a New Paradigm
    • Thyroid is a Symptom
    • Why Thyroid Treatment Works or Not
    • TESTOSTERONE: Just Tip of the Iceberg
    • Menopause, Andropause, Rejuvenation
    • Testosterone--More
    • Cholesterol Feeds Hormones
    • Brain Commands Hormones
  • Weight
    • ​Lose Weight Through High Energy Nutrients
    • Gain Weight
    • Hard Core Methods
  • Skin
    • Skin Program
    • Skin from the Inside
    • Sun is Good for Skin
    • Toxicity Damages Skin
  • Workout
    • Full Recovery Training
    • Over-Training: Science vs.Emotion
    • Work OUT of Doors
    • Shoes: Your Foundation
    • Workout for Success
  • Health & Romance
    • Health & Romance
    • Sex Drive Diet
    • Managing Sexual Energy
    • Flirt Culture & Tease Culture
    • Men: Tool, Fool, or Cool?
    • Men Leading
  • Fasting
    • Why Fast?
    • Fasting Lifestyle
    • Customized Fasting
    • When Fasting Fails
    • Boost Fasting
    • Dry Fast
    • Famous Athletes
    • Living on Energy
  • New Paradigm
    • The llness Matrix
    • New Health Paradigm
    • 6 Root Causes
    • 4 Signs You are Treating Symptoms not Causes
    • 7 Nutrition Paradigms
    • Over-Specialization is the Hobglobin of Mediocre Minds
    • Science Becomes Religion When:
    • 14 Reasons to Doubt Theories of Viruses
    • Dr. Klinghardt
    • The New Physics
    • Health Technology Paradigms: Tesla versus Rife
    • Healing Machines
    • 6 Levels of Complete Rejuvenation
    • East-West Paradigms: JING: the Deepest Energy
    • Misleading Science
    • What Is Integral Theory?
    • 4 Big Ideas
    • Self Assessment
  • Quality Improvement
    • Engineering Customized, Quantified Protocols
    • Root Causes
    • Complete Solutions
    • Systems Thinking
    • Complexity is the Problem: Syndromes & Spectrums
    • Simplify
    • 3 Principles of Transformation
    • Scientific Method for Personal Health
    • Continuous Improvement of Nutritional Deficiencies
    • Just In Time Coaching
    • Health in Corporate Strategy
    • When Should You See Results?
  • Shop
    • Relax Sauna & Lamps
    • FIR Desk Lamps
    • Magnetico
    • Metals Detox: Coseva TRS
    • Megaspore Probiotic