Men Leading Relationships
Passionate relationships are founded on a man being stronger in his masculine and a woman being in her feminine.
Attraction happens between polarity of opposites.
Healthy roles begin with a man leading and woman receiving and supporting.
Women can lead in other ways through her unique insight like a neck turning a head at times to go the right direction, but a man is still “head” of household, although modern roles are more flexible.
Equality of respect and contribution is still desirable but not through a fictitious sameness that is actually role reversal.
When a man is weak and not leading, a woman often slips into default mode of complaining and controlling.
Signs of relationships without polarity are argue, argue, argue and endless exploring of “childhood issues.”
The first step is often for a man to demand total respect and set boundaries on unproductive and irrational conversations that usually blame him.
A woman has to grow up, stop blaming him and take responsibility for herself and support her man—not pursue transformation through criticism and control.
To be a leader a man has to stop avoiding conflict a man has to confront his deep neediness for female approval and fear he will offend her and other nice guy training. He has been deeply shamed by society and his mother to be responsible for her feelings to not react on his own behalf. This is culturally instituted as traditional chivalry or feminist redemptive posturing.
Female behavior is seen by many men as a great test to see if he dumb enough to put up with it and follow along with her posturing as morally superior or simply entitled.
The masculine role begins with setting boundaries and respect with each individual taking responsibility for themselves.
If a man cannot stand up for himself, then she cannot trust him.
On a dating show the audience had to cringe through a woman being rude to a man over and over. At the end of the show she complained, “How can he defend me if he can’t even defend himself.” This kind of female has no shame for inflicting pain and it is more common than anyone wants to admit--and if you do, the gynocentric girl gang will try to shame you into silence. Recognizing this deeply ingrained pattern is very hard for idealistic people.
If you are too afraid to yell at someone of either sex to “fuck off” then will never see that it can make a woman calm down and open to you. This has to be seen to be believed. Although once it got to that point, I usually rejected them. The point is, because I am willing to do that, I don’t need to as much.
Once you are strong as a man you don’t attract this kind of woman as much and you learn to reject them instantly like the in first conversation when you meet—leaving them stunned because they have no clue. It’s often because they can’t receive (lack of feminine) what you are saying as your contribution that gives you value but they treat you as a competitor (male adolescent hyper-competitiveness) with whom they have to establish independence (masculinized defenses)—especially as they get older and more rigid.
The level of professional help is generally very weak because they don’t deal with these roles.
Many people saying similar things about masculine and feminine roles are actually not going far enough. Until you realize just how deeply female centric the culture is in the media, professional therapy and self help fields, you cannot see it. There is always the fear of criticizing females too much but you always get points for coming down hard on men.
Most women don’t have anyone tell them what they are doing wrong, but instead get mislead by things like being “empowered” through affirming the goddess within.
In pursuit of masculine and feminine polarity too often people regress to the traditional role of chivalry in which men have to sacrifice feelings for performance while women are still too dependent. I define 3 options in my page, Tool, Fool, or Cool?
My training for a PhD in sociology gives me the ability to synthesize all the theories.
Then I sort them out through experience in dating and relationships.
Very valuable is experience with women from other countries where it is easier to learn to be feminine, as there are few good role models in the media in the USA. But anyone can learn wherever they are.
I have extensive writings that are not public that I share with people I know.
Attraction happens between polarity of opposites.
Healthy roles begin with a man leading and woman receiving and supporting.
Women can lead in other ways through her unique insight like a neck turning a head at times to go the right direction, but a man is still “head” of household, although modern roles are more flexible.
Equality of respect and contribution is still desirable but not through a fictitious sameness that is actually role reversal.
When a man is weak and not leading, a woman often slips into default mode of complaining and controlling.
Signs of relationships without polarity are argue, argue, argue and endless exploring of “childhood issues.”
The first step is often for a man to demand total respect and set boundaries on unproductive and irrational conversations that usually blame him.
A woman has to grow up, stop blaming him and take responsibility for herself and support her man—not pursue transformation through criticism and control.
To be a leader a man has to stop avoiding conflict a man has to confront his deep neediness for female approval and fear he will offend her and other nice guy training. He has been deeply shamed by society and his mother to be responsible for her feelings to not react on his own behalf. This is culturally instituted as traditional chivalry or feminist redemptive posturing.
Female behavior is seen by many men as a great test to see if he dumb enough to put up with it and follow along with her posturing as morally superior or simply entitled.
The masculine role begins with setting boundaries and respect with each individual taking responsibility for themselves.
If a man cannot stand up for himself, then she cannot trust him.
On a dating show the audience had to cringe through a woman being rude to a man over and over. At the end of the show she complained, “How can he defend me if he can’t even defend himself.” This kind of female has no shame for inflicting pain and it is more common than anyone wants to admit--and if you do, the gynocentric girl gang will try to shame you into silence. Recognizing this deeply ingrained pattern is very hard for idealistic people.
If you are too afraid to yell at someone of either sex to “fuck off” then will never see that it can make a woman calm down and open to you. This has to be seen to be believed. Although once it got to that point, I usually rejected them. The point is, because I am willing to do that, I don’t need to as much.
Once you are strong as a man you don’t attract this kind of woman as much and you learn to reject them instantly like the in first conversation when you meet—leaving them stunned because they have no clue. It’s often because they can’t receive (lack of feminine) what you are saying as your contribution that gives you value but they treat you as a competitor (male adolescent hyper-competitiveness) with whom they have to establish independence (masculinized defenses)—especially as they get older and more rigid.
The level of professional help is generally very weak because they don’t deal with these roles.
Many people saying similar things about masculine and feminine roles are actually not going far enough. Until you realize just how deeply female centric the culture is in the media, professional therapy and self help fields, you cannot see it. There is always the fear of criticizing females too much but you always get points for coming down hard on men.
Most women don’t have anyone tell them what they are doing wrong, but instead get mislead by things like being “empowered” through affirming the goddess within.
In pursuit of masculine and feminine polarity too often people regress to the traditional role of chivalry in which men have to sacrifice feelings for performance while women are still too dependent. I define 3 options in my page, Tool, Fool, or Cool?
My training for a PhD in sociology gives me the ability to synthesize all the theories.
Then I sort them out through experience in dating and relationships.
Very valuable is experience with women from other countries where it is easier to learn to be feminine, as there are few good role models in the media in the USA. But anyone can learn wherever they are.
I have extensive writings that are not public that I share with people I know.
