Bible Insight in Dating and Marriage
- Confront toxic femininity
- Learning to identify kind, feminine women.
Discussions about the frustrations men have in dating and marrying have been disconnected from the Bible which predicted this mess from the beginning.
Let’s start with one of the most basic bible narratives and principles:
The enemy uses role reversal of women leading men:
- Eve misleading Adam.
- Jezebel leading the wicked king Ahab
- Sarah leading Abraham by suggesting he have a child with a servant.
Reversal violates the three principles of marriage for women to be a
- Helper
- Submit to their husband by following his lead as head of household
- Obey their husband when necessary to avoid endless arguments
Everyone is afraid to talk about his because they are trying to please the world and women in particular. They fear women, not God.
The bible identifies what is essential toxic femininity, to use a forbidden term that calls out “toxic masculinity,” which is a man-hating term that represents role reversal pushed by feminism.
Toxic femininity in the bible begins with the third curse on women in Genesis 3:16 that most people don’t know about. No pastor I asked knew the 3 major translations.
“You shall desire to control your husband and she shall rule over you.” NET, NLT
“Your desire shall be contrary to your husband but he shall rule over you.” ESV
Contrariness is constant arguing, rather than submitting and obeying, which is form of control because men just give up for peace and let her get her way.
“You shall desire to control your husband and he shall rule over you.”
This is the most common yet vague translation.
The word desire can be under in the context of Genesis 4 as the desire of a sin.
This is essentially a desire to use him for something, which is an obvious feature of non loving marriages where the husband is controlled.
Many people interpret desire as love and ruling over her as the problem of patriarchy. Patriarchy as male leadership is the solution not the problem.
Are all forms of male leadership loving? No. That’s where the verse is a robust explanation that can encompass over compensations for the problem women initiated, like in Islam. Ruling over her can be heavy handed and not a Biblical marriage. This formulation can encompass extreme examples of male abuse brought by feminists, without their one sided extreme generalized to all cases.
What is the result of this?
“Childish leaders oppress my people, and women rule over them." Isaiah 3:12 (NLT)
That is what we see today with woke politics with a foundation in feminism.
Plus quotes about a nagging wife and it’s better to hide on the corner of a roof top from her.
“Jezebel” is the demon indentified in spiritual warfare as spirit of control, manipulation and narcissism: arguing with impenetrable, self-centered abuse.
Narcissists are allergic to boundaries, a masculine quality, so they are afraid of masculine men who they can’t control and will cut them down any way they can, which I have experienced in churches run by Jezebels and male pastors who are Ahabs who serve them.
They use the logic of feminism: when women are “uncomfortable” no reasons need to be give, you are automatically guilty.
Even men that uphold biblical marriage in theory blame men for problems, which means they don’ t know the first thing about what the bible really says or deliverance in casting out Jezebel.
These gloomy loveless fools like McCarthur and Driscol endorse the complete genocide of Palestinians by Satanic Israel by endorsing the ridiculously out of context quote from Samuel “to kill “every man, woman and child” that was required to at the time to wipe out nephilim blood and child sacrifice, which do not apply to Palestinians. This speaks to their general lack of credibility and the evil running through them.
The matter at hand is what should men do?
Lead.
Confront toxic femininity, whether for small acts of selfishness or disrespect.
Women are turned on by men that confront them.
Women have no shame about testing men with rudeness and say things like, “How can he defend me if he can’t even defend himself.”
Not all women test like that but it’s a common thing men discuss.
Dates moved forward much better after confrontations.
One example is someone I told, “You’re doing all the talking and not listening.”
She looked down and then looked up and said, “This date is going great.” We danced and had more dates.
Another example is a woman who was complaining about the date she wanted to arrange and I told her off. Then she came to my house right away complaining that I criticized her but then we had sex right away. That was before I was saved and don’t do that anymore, but that’s how fast and dramatic the results can be.
Another woman was talking too much and I escalated slowly with my confrontation until I had to yell at her to shut the f up. She paused calmly and said, “I deserved that.” Then she wanted to have sex but I kicked her out.
I have been told on dates that I was being too nice.
One time I said, “Ok let’s take a break I’ll go on killing spree and then we can get back together.” She laughed and it moved forward.
This is the problem of being too nice, putting up with stuff and not leading.
Here’s the catch: once I learned to confront this I did not have to.
My selection became better and my body language communicated no need to test me.
A really good woman will not put you through this. But she might get bored if you are not leading with what you want and always asking her what she wants to do, etc.
- Women want men to lead romantically, this is patriarchy as leadership.
- Studies show that most women prefer male supervisors at work.
- Most women are happier in traditional roles as stay at home moms, that working to be an independent woman.
How to identify feminine women?
Deprogram from lustful images and ways of looking at women.
Focus on the face for feminine love and kindness.
My website has pictures and music videos of good examples you and take in to reprogram yourself without staring at women in public.
Talk to foreign women who are completely different than most American women.
You can learn to feel feminine energy from the back or across a pond as I have done.
I wrote about how I often see the Holy Spirit in the eyes of some women.
A woman at an Assemblies of God Church I was going to creeped my facebook posts and complained to the head pastor that she was “not comfortable” with such a statement and numerous things I was posting in admiration of feminine women. No real reasons were given but she had the head pastor and assistant pastor confront me and I told them off completely for being Ahabs run by Jezebels.
They let women lead and make decisions based on feelings, double apostacy.
This woman actually speaks to congregation in violation of women should not teach men.
AOG allows women be pastors and that’s why the churches are feminized, feminist and run by Jezebels. This is not only example what I have written about previously and this experience in more detail.
The consensus among single men is that single church women are even worse than single secular women. Wounded women are coming to churches and not being healed. There are few good men to lead. We need to start men’s ministries to lead men and women properly.
