Key in on Feminine Radiance

Men, you need to focus on feminine energy and not just physical attraction. 
Feminine energy conveys kindness and love. 
It's soothing and uplifting. 

Hotness might be the first thing you notice but bring it back to the face to see her character. 
Experienced men who are emotionally together do this well.

If you don't learn to see and feel love in a woman you could end up in a marriage that is soulless and sexless and then she divorces you with the kids and half your money. This is a real nightmare that many men are going through because they don't know how to identify feminine love.
Even when it's not that bad, both partners often don't know what their emotional issues are and how those issues will blow-up the relationship once the honeymoon is over. It's better to have deep conversations with psychological awareness before sex. 
Once you start having sex you are hooked and cannot think straight. You're PWed. 

Many men don't know what a good woman looks and feels like because it's actually rare in America. There are some here and there but you would miss it if you don't know what you are looking for. 
Start by studying pictures and music videos of foreign women with feminine radiance. 

Avoid porn and seductive pictures like the plague--and it's exactly that an epidemic. 
I heard stats that I did not verify that like 80% of men are wanking to only fans girls. 
They are wasting their wallet and load and that lowers their testosterone
10% of young women like 18-25 are doing only fans-- that's nudity on internet cameras to get men's money.  

Porn and wanking will dull your senses to understanding women and love. 
You need to appreciate the finer detailed things in life. 
Savor the flavors of feminine energy with each unique personality of a woman. 
Find those rare chance encounters that you can have playful little conversation that reminds you what it's like to be a human being. 

Change your energy about women on your own and you will attract that energy and be able to see what may have been in front of you. 
When your masculine energy increases you can attract your feminine counterpart. 
Masculinity involves discipline. 
An ability to lead and express directly without hesitancy--when the time is right. 
Work on the great curse of neediness that makes you too eager with too much pressure as it's too much about you. 
Learn to have conversations by being curious and asking questions. 
Not job interview style but noticing things about her and playing with what comes up. 

Sexual frustration is too often understood as a pent-up need for sex. 
Sex is addictive and can provide its own rationalization for why you need it. 
Emotional fulfillment can replace that to a large extent. 
I remember once meeting a girl that I eventually did get together with and when I came home after meeting her I felt recognized, fulfilled, and loved. I did not feel horny in anticipation of hooking up, which we did not do when we got together. 

It's advisable to date without sex because it helps you think clearer. 
Learn to have deep emotional conversations to get a better sense of how good she is. 
See if you can talk to grow together. 
It helps to learn about trauma responses and attachment patterns. 
Understanding masculine and feminine polarity is key. 
You got to lead. 
But don't try to be in control of everything or accept all the burdens of making it work.  
Let her come forward with her nurturing and insight.
She has to put effort in to show that she is a helper and you are not her servant. 
Have standards and criteria; don't be the sole chaser. 

I have explained in pictures in recent FB posts, now web pages, that a woman's feminine radiance through the smile must be larger than physical attraction. 
If both are maxed-out feminine radiance wins because love is bigger than physical attraction. 

For Jesus freaks you can see the Holy Spirit in the eyes of a woman. I've confirmed my ability to see that on FB through pictures of friend suggestions and then their profile presents their faith. Not just because they say they are a Christian, but women with substantial progress in faith. You have to have it yourself to see it in someone else.

Which brings me to my concluding remarks. God has guided me in many things although it's not always obvious--although sometimes it is by putting words in my head that I had to look up.  Recently I made friends in person with a ripped fitness bunny with a fun feminine radiance. She even listened to me trying to explain some of these ideas even before it made much sense. From her pictures she had given me the idea to look at images of fitness models and I was able to deduce another possible meaning in the fall of Adam and Eve. 

When Eve lead Adam she went into her masculine and thus feminine radiance declined, while physical attraction would have stayed the same, shifting the balance toward lust.  This generated a specific form of shame of the body that was now an object of lust and thus the need to cover the body. When they were living in pure love under God emotional love was bigger than physical attraction and they could frolic nude without a problem. 
You can read  more under Love Conquers Lust--this section.
Or, From Love to Lust in the Fall in my section on Faith. 

I've been riding a wave of inspiration so high I did not sleep much for a few days. 
Slam dunk. The master MC is JC.