Men Need to Feel to Connect with Women

Men need to learn to feel more to select a good woman and receive what she has to offer.
Because when they don’t they are lead mostly by sexual attraction without good standards for selection of a wife.
Especially if men are pursuing some just for sex then they are conditioning responses to get less.
 
Why do we need women in the first place?
Someone to help us balance with opposite qualities.
As men we are in our heads working all the time.
We need to come out of that to feel playful joy and rest.
We are looking for soothing, nurturing, and peace.
Men need touch.
All of these come from a feminine woman.  
 
The adrenal rush of “she’s so hot I got to get her number” can be too much like work and stressful.  It’s instrumental.
The experience we aim to have should be a part of the process of meeting.
 
Men need to break themselves from lust responses to every seductive image and stop looking at all that, even in everyday media.  
Focus visually on her face and how it makes you feel.
You can practice feeling with media images of feminine women that are not seductive..
It should give you a warm fuzzy feeling that is worth it all by itself and does not require further action or the release of tension. We can also get some of that from friends.
 
The more you can feel what feminine love is the more immune you become to hotness that is really just cold, haughty or angry.
 
You can learn to feel how a feminine woman instantly even with back turned.
This is important first for knowing who is safe to talk to.
You can notice the movement, sound of the voice, and level of empathy toward you.
Don’t think about what to say but feel her character.
Conversation does not need to be thought up in a special way. Talking about anything will let her feel what you are feeling.
That’s what many men don’t understand: women feel what we are feeling.
It’s ok to be nervous, don’t force confidence, authenticity is more important.  
I have approached women when I was very nervous but I surrendered to it and my feelings for her and they liked it right away.
Men have a problem with intense sensation because it’s vulnerable and seems unpredictable. So they go back into their heads where it safer.
If you can feel more and express more in a wider range you can enter a woman’s world and be more interesting.
You must not let anyone shame you for being sensitive. If they do that they dismissed. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone. Everything they do is a test of their empathy. It’s real simple.
 
But you will be less nervous without a strict agenda because you are checking her out to see what you get back from her, not a begging dog. The tables are turning with so many females behaving badly and men willing to walk away. Some men are learning discretion and integrity.
 
Flirting is an exchange of appreciation that helps build this spontaneous affection.
Just a smile can brighten our day.
Some countries have a flirt culture where this is done casually.
America is not a flirt culture: it’s sexualized in the media and afraid in everyday actions.
Women are afraid that men are coming onto them because they have so many negative beliefs about men.
Don’t reinforce the “leave me alone” defense by pursuing every warm gesture too far without further signs.
Some women may lure you in to be rejected out of overwhelming unconscious or conscious anger. You can learn to feel the before it happens.
Women don’t understand men’s fear of rejection.
 
It’s best to meet women in a common framework without pressure like at church.
I can narrow it done pretty quick:
Christian
Health enthusiast or willing to be lead without a struggle to stop eating junk
She can get to know me from my public writing on health, faith, relationships. It’s up to her to read and come back to me inspired so I know she supports my purpose. 
I want her to put in words that she sees and appreciates me like no one else has.