SELENA: Expresses Love All-Out

Selena the superstar singer had the most incredible unstage charisma that is hard to put into words.
I believe her presence was an all-out expression of what is a good person--in a feminine form, maximum feminine, which is what interests me most.
The documentaries with family videos reveal that.
Who was she?
In the 1990's Selena from Texas became the biggest latin recording artist ever, Grammy award winner and many time nominee.
She sang mainly in Spanish but her last album crossed-over into English and produced hits that everyone has heard on the radio like "Dreaming of You" and "I Could Love You."
Many people heard about her first through the movie Selena with Jennifer Lopez.

Her smile leads the way: big with unrestrained joy.
Everything about her was sincere and unpretentious.
She was goofy and laughed easily.
Caring. Nurturing. Pure.
"I want to be remembered as someone who cared."
Her dance style was largely self-created and spontaneous.
She also designed her own clothes.
She was in all accounts a humble person and even worried if anyone would show up to her concerts.
All of these are feminine forms of expression, which gave her maximum feminine radiance, the key thing for a woman that I have written about many times.

Her smile was really big with perfect teeth. This reflects good cranial and airway development that contributed to her singing pipes. Facial muscles were robust.

The full unfolding of the feminine occurs within a container provided by the masculine: at a young age was with her father.
Her father was a musician and got back into music just to provide a band for the promising Selena after noticing her talent when she was 6.5 years old.
He created a family band that operated with the best level of cohesiveness he has ever seen, said Chris who joined as a guitarist. Everyone got along great. I think Latino families have a lot going for them. The women are generally more feminine. 

Everything was great until Selena and Chris fell in love. Chris and Selena were about 21 and 19 when they met. She pursued him. Her father found out and kicked him out of the band. Her father found out and kicked him out of the band.  Selena chose her husband over the band when it may have broken up the band. She chose love over carreer, which is a feminine woman's priority. He said she was constantly making him feel special. They still saw each other and got married on their own, then announced it to the family who eventually accepted it and he was back in the band.

Here's where families can be overprotective and have trouble letting go. The father was wrong about Chris who turned about to be great for Selena and the band. They all knew him so there was no risk. Chris contributed more musical styles to bring them into the mainstream. He is well loved by fans and gives many interviews still and has a best selling book about Selena.

Selena was killed by an employee in 1995 when Selena confronted her for stealing from the fan club and fashion business. Selena continued to trust her too long after her father had warned her and ordered the killer to stay away from the business but Selena went to get some records back from her.

After I saw the Netflix documentary on her life I was devastated by the loss of such a good, inspiring person and have had trouble processing this. That's why I feel a need to do something about it. I can see why her family wants to keep her legacy alive, not just out of personal sentimentality but because there is a universal contribution. My contribution is putting that into words to contribute to the visuals and music.

The closest example I have to this level of character is a masculine version in the runner Steve Prefontaine who also died at age 23. Prefontaine always ran all-out. He said to hold back is to abuse the gift. He won races he should have lost. Pre also had a striking magnetism when he hit the track as people saw the character that people perceive in him. He also disobeyed coaches when they went against his beliefs, and by some accounts the coaches admitted he was right.

An interesting detail on her auspicious beginning: Selena was delivered by doctor Ron Paul, future Senator who I remember by his stance: "Cut military spending, not food stamps," which is unusual for a Republican. I agree with that. Selena's family was on food stamps after the oil industry in their town collapsed. I think that kept her humble, not spoiled, while she had maximum support for being a singer from her whole family. That is an ideal combination.

Videos of her smile and laugh here: