Sexual Abundance
Let's talk about sex from a man's point of view.
I'm not going to black out the word sex or use misleading words. We need the raw, bold truth.
Men getting enough a major issue that is hard to talk about without seeming like a loser--big L on the forehead and getting shamed about it.
What are the ingredients of an abundant sex life especially in a long term relationship?
I learned through mulitple relationships and being with many women. The many part is not something to brag about, in fact, it was a bad idea from the point of view of my current morality.
But it does help me see some of the ingredients of a good sex life in a marriage that many men don't undertand and can hardly believe how good it can be.
So lets take it from the beginning.
Sex is not intimacy. In-to-me-see is real understanding that you can only have through talking.
Having sex in dating before you get to know her can be a substitute for getting to know her and leads to an attachment that you should not have.
This is how you end up in a marriage with a woman who does not reallly love you, stops having sex, is critical and controling, divorces you and takes the kids and money.
You need to develop real skill in emotional conversations to find out if she really listens, cares and is a loving women.
You need to understand some psychology and direct communication around values and purpose, if you are even clear yourself. Most people aren't and that's why dating is a guessing game based on feelings that are unceratin.
Masculiinity is defining around purpose.
My purpose is defined by my faith and my work.
With purpose we have standards for qualifying the compatability and competence of a woman. Women want to see this strength in us.
If you are tyring to tell a woman what she wants to hear to get laid you are basically trying to please your mother.
You can lead the conversation and interaction.
A leader sees the needs of others to bring about the best in them.
Not putting up with disprect, which younger women often due to test men to see if they can defend themselves. One woman on a dating show said, "I was rude to him and he did not defend hmiself, so how is he going to defend me?
You want a woman who will not play these primitive games. If she doesn't stop doing after you tell her once it's over.
Women feel what we are feeling.
So we should be comfortable with what we are doing: ok with our motives and skilled enough to not be too awkward.
I'm very comfortable just talking to anyone if the energy is not bad. I've learned to have fun with it.
Being a little nervous is natural and as long as you don't try too hard to hide it can be fine. Vulnerability is not the kiss of death.
It's all this emotional alignment that makes up "confidence" which canot be forced, it's the result of awareness not a thing you do instrumentally.
You must be able to please a woman with affection and sexually.
If you don't like going down on a woman I can't help you, bro.
She has to feel like you can please her to be able to do the following.
Women are naturally sexually submissive when introduced the right way.
As a man you are leading. They even like being told what to. It's natural even to a virgin who needs guidance: one told me, "I love it when you tell me to suck your cock."
All my gfs were like that--every day we were together not as a treat that she decides to give.
It can be a good way to say hello in your time together even before the conversation starts.
Either she sucks or your relationship sucks.
One woman said, "I knew you are sexually dominant when you walked in the door." It's an energy. Just like I have written about visual training for men to see women with a feminine radiance of love and not be mislead by hotness. I've posted extensively on this recently anyone can find.
The most repeated instruction in the bible for wives is to submit to her husband. When I first got saved 5 years ago and i read that I was amazed, having already discovered how loving submission is in this context, but they meant it more broadly.
The bible's sexual instruction is to not continuously deny your spouse. There is no difference on that between husband and wife.
Let's be clear my woman will probably have more orgasms than me. I hold back on cumming most times i have sex because will lose energy and testosterone for my purposes in life. And when i don't get tired i feel more affection and love that does not step. I have more feeling spread around. More sensation moves to my mouth and I just want to eat her skin all over. I'm most interested in her feminine radiance that conveys love--that's nurturing.
I'm not saying everyone has to have this many partners to get this point, i admited that was a mistake. I'm now a Christian that believes in the ideal number of one.
I coach men on relating with women and I can get you physical shape, too, It helps to get the testosterone up.
I'm not going to black out the word sex or use misleading words. We need the raw, bold truth.
Men getting enough a major issue that is hard to talk about without seeming like a loser--big L on the forehead and getting shamed about it.
What are the ingredients of an abundant sex life especially in a long term relationship?
I learned through mulitple relationships and being with many women. The many part is not something to brag about, in fact, it was a bad idea from the point of view of my current morality.
But it does help me see some of the ingredients of a good sex life in a marriage that many men don't undertand and can hardly believe how good it can be.
So lets take it from the beginning.
Sex is not intimacy. In-to-me-see is real understanding that you can only have through talking.
Having sex in dating before you get to know her can be a substitute for getting to know her and leads to an attachment that you should not have.
This is how you end up in a marriage with a woman who does not reallly love you, stops having sex, is critical and controling, divorces you and takes the kids and money.
You need to develop real skill in emotional conversations to find out if she really listens, cares and is a loving women.
You need to understand some psychology and direct communication around values and purpose, if you are even clear yourself. Most people aren't and that's why dating is a guessing game based on feelings that are unceratin.
Masculiinity is defining around purpose.
My purpose is defined by my faith and my work.
With purpose we have standards for qualifying the compatability and competence of a woman. Women want to see this strength in us.
If you are tyring to tell a woman what she wants to hear to get laid you are basically trying to please your mother.
You can lead the conversation and interaction.
A leader sees the needs of others to bring about the best in them.
Not putting up with disprect, which younger women often due to test men to see if they can defend themselves. One woman on a dating show said, "I was rude to him and he did not defend hmiself, so how is he going to defend me?
You want a woman who will not play these primitive games. If she doesn't stop doing after you tell her once it's over.
Women feel what we are feeling.
So we should be comfortable with what we are doing: ok with our motives and skilled enough to not be too awkward.
I'm very comfortable just talking to anyone if the energy is not bad. I've learned to have fun with it.
Being a little nervous is natural and as long as you don't try too hard to hide it can be fine. Vulnerability is not the kiss of death.
It's all this emotional alignment that makes up "confidence" which canot be forced, it's the result of awareness not a thing you do instrumentally.
You must be able to please a woman with affection and sexually.
If you don't like going down on a woman I can't help you, bro.
She has to feel like you can please her to be able to do the following.
Women are naturally sexually submissive when introduced the right way.
As a man you are leading. They even like being told what to. It's natural even to a virgin who needs guidance: one told me, "I love it when you tell me to suck your cock."
All my gfs were like that--every day we were together not as a treat that she decides to give.
It can be a good way to say hello in your time together even before the conversation starts.
Either she sucks or your relationship sucks.
One woman said, "I knew you are sexually dominant when you walked in the door." It's an energy. Just like I have written about visual training for men to see women with a feminine radiance of love and not be mislead by hotness. I've posted extensively on this recently anyone can find.
The most repeated instruction in the bible for wives is to submit to her husband. When I first got saved 5 years ago and i read that I was amazed, having already discovered how loving submission is in this context, but they meant it more broadly.
The bible's sexual instruction is to not continuously deny your spouse. There is no difference on that between husband and wife.
Let's be clear my woman will probably have more orgasms than me. I hold back on cumming most times i have sex because will lose energy and testosterone for my purposes in life. And when i don't get tired i feel more affection and love that does not step. I have more feeling spread around. More sensation moves to my mouth and I just want to eat her skin all over. I'm most interested in her feminine radiance that conveys love--that's nurturing.
I'm not saying everyone has to have this many partners to get this point, i admited that was a mistake. I'm now a Christian that believes in the ideal number of one.
I coach men on relating with women and I can get you physical shape, too, It helps to get the testosterone up.
