What is Your Attachment Style?
Nervous system regulation is necessary to achieve masculine or feminine qualities for polarity.
Dysregulation can be overreacting as fight or flight; underreacting as freezing; or fawning as pleasing and compromising.
There are four categories of attachment patterns:
Dismissive Avoidant: fears closeness, freeze response, passive, ineffectual.
Fearful Avoidant: can get angry, fears betrayl even though they want to be close, perfecitionism leading to dimissing others
.
Anxious Preocupied abandonment and good enough issues leading to feeling rejected. Often pleases others and ruminates to solve problems that cannot be solved by trying to change the other person but need to be released emotionally so you can move on.
Secure Attachment.
empathetic person who connects with people easily
feel confident in who you are.
let people in easily but have healthy boundaries too
have strong conflict-resolution skills.
All of these are more complicated but this is a start.
A regulated man is calm and assertive. He is also attentive not hyper masculine in his head asserting oblivious to others.
A regulated woman is calm and receiving and expressing. She has enough masculine boundaries and focus to be secure to relax and receive for her feminine to grow larger than her masculine.
I saw a young couple walking together and they looked unhappy. He looked checked out. She looked frustrated. I can image that he can't respond to her. Not that he started it, but women need to be lead or they may end up drowning in the swamp of their own feelings. If he does not repond well she may blame him and become more and more critical trying to nag her way out of her misery.
Dysregulation can be overreacting as fight or flight; underreacting as freezing; or fawning as pleasing and compromising.
There are four categories of attachment patterns:
Dismissive Avoidant: fears closeness, freeze response, passive, ineffectual.
Fearful Avoidant: can get angry, fears betrayl even though they want to be close, perfecitionism leading to dimissing others
.
Anxious Preocupied abandonment and good enough issues leading to feeling rejected. Often pleases others and ruminates to solve problems that cannot be solved by trying to change the other person but need to be released emotionally so you can move on.
Secure Attachment.
empathetic person who connects with people easily
feel confident in who you are.
let people in easily but have healthy boundaries too
have strong conflict-resolution skills.
All of these are more complicated but this is a start.
A regulated man is calm and assertive. He is also attentive not hyper masculine in his head asserting oblivious to others.
A regulated woman is calm and receiving and expressing. She has enough masculine boundaries and focus to be secure to relax and receive for her feminine to grow larger than her masculine.
I saw a young couple walking together and they looked unhappy. He looked checked out. She looked frustrated. I can image that he can't respond to her. Not that he started it, but women need to be lead or they may end up drowning in the swamp of their own feelings. If he does not repond well she may blame him and become more and more critical trying to nag her way out of her misery.
